Many women are faced with a decision of what they should do when it comes to their relationship during time of hardship. They have the person they are in a relationship with, and they have another person who says the right thing and does the right thing at the right time, which makes the grass seem greener on the other side--but is it?

When a woman is in the middle of a bad relationship, married or not, there is often times someone in the wings who is saying what she needs to hear and is willing to do whatever needs to be done in order to make her feel better. Sometimes, it causes her to go astray and explore the grass on the other side. At this point, the grass seems beautiful and this guy appears fairytale perfect. He can do no wrong and is someone who she has been waiting for. He’s caring, compassionate, sensitive, a great lover, and is a good listener. He’s all that she wanted and more. In some cases, she now, is in love with two people.

The woman is now in a complicated situation and is faced with a life altering decision. Does she leave her current relationship and be with her dream man, or does she stay in her current relationship and try to work through the problems?

This leaves you with two different types of women: women who have crossed the fence and women who are thinking about crossing the fence.

Many of the women who have crossed realized that the grass is not always greener on the other side. In many cases, the woman comes up empty on that end as well and realizes that grass was just as dead as the grass that she was already on.

As for the women who are thinking about crossing, there are many reasons why you should not cross. For starters, the other man is no different than the current man you have. Evaluate the situation for a minute. Did the man who you are in a relationship change? If so, ask yourself how. Most men are like that. They will do whatever it takes to get a woman, but not do what it takes to keep a woman.

Furthermore, the outside man controls the table; he has all the cards. Whatever he say to you in this situation, it will sound good to you because you’re not hearing it at home. He’s not saying anything differently than what your current man used to say. The difference is that he is saying it now. And since he does have all the cards, on occasion, he may play the marriage card. To him, it’s safe to play it because he knows that you are already committed to someone else, and the odd chance of you breaking that commitment within a reasonable amount of time and start focusing on him is not likely, especially when there are kids involved. Plus, he knows when to push and how much pressure to apply and he knows when to lay-off and let you gather your thoughts and come back to reality.

By this point, he already knows if you are a keeper or not, so in his mind, you may be expendable and he will say whatever he can to get whatever he wants for as long as he wants. This could last months or even years. Yes, I know a lot of it sounds very convincing and on the rare occasion, it may be true, but for the most part, it isn’t. He may even seem like the one, but at one time, so did the current man in your life. The man on the other side is no different.
And with all of this, it may even appear that he’s waiting on you. He’s living his life, doing what he wants to do and yet, at times, can even make you feel guilty because you think he’s waiting, when he’s not.

It is very easy for his grass to look greener when you are not on it regularly. The more you walk on it, the more brown spots you see. In other words, the grass is greener in the shade, but once the sunlight hits it, it’s just as brown as any other grass.

No matter how convincing it may be, most of the time, it’s not reality. In this situation, the man has the upper hand; he can play whatever card he wants when he wants, and make it look how he wants it to look, especially when he knows that you are only temporary. Before you decide which side of the grass you want to be on, if either, just remember, it’s not always greener on the other side.